My one Time Life Task....!!!

Feelings & Emotions in my word

Our emotions are one of the things we use to measure life by. If we feel happy in a certain situation, we think it's a healthy place to be. If we feel unhappy, we think we should get out or change things. The danger is that we easily let our feelings take over from any values or common sense we have. Feelings are simply the way we respond to what's happening to us and around us. They are a sign of what is going on inside, we can't control them or make them really go away. Have you ever tried making yourself feel happy, when you're miserable. It's not that easy..

We all would like to live a happy, healthy and fulfilled life, yet few seem to be able to do just that. Why must we have so much suffering, failures and disappointments? We just want to be secure in a loving relationship and a satisfying job with a good income and enjoy ourselves. Instead, our relationships turn sour all too soon, we have a job that we do not like or we do not have one at all, there is never enough money and generally there is not much joy to be found anywhere. As a result we feel resentment, hopelessness, depression, perhaps also anger and hatred. Where and why did it all go wrong?

I believe that there is a way out of this depressing jungle of negativity and disappointments. I actually believe that we can make a decision to have a happy, fulfilled life and then really do it. What I cannot promise is that it will be easy. It needs either willpower and determination or the help of good people around you. But you have nothing to lose by trying and each step in the right direction is likely to bring some reward.

We can be happy or at least accepting in adversity and unhappy when we seem to have everything. What decides how we will react and how we will feel inside? It is no secret to psychologists that we are programmed since earliest childhood by everything that went on around us, but especially by the way our parents talked to us and to each other, by the way they felt and reacted and by the interactions with our siblings. We became programmed by observing and imitating our role models.

If we were lucky and grew up in a happy and loving family, we probably have an inner program that makes it easy for us to lead a happy life in a loving relationship. If, on the other hand, there was much worry, anger, resentment and other negativity in our childhood, chances are that we will have a hard time being happy and loving as adults. That probably applies to most of us; we are victims of negative programming, during childhood.

If we really want to change, there is only one thing to do: we must change our subconscious programming from a negative outlook on life to a positive one. Unfortunately, we cannot simply decide that from now on we will be happy and loving. Such conscious decisions on their own have little influence on our subconscious programming. In fact, if there is a conflict between our subconscious programming and our conscious will, the subconscious will always win.

Therefore, we must be clever and beat the subconscious at its own game. We must throw the old program out and devise a new one that allows us to be as we really want to be. However, it is not sufficient just to work with our feelings and emotions because these do not arise out of a vacuum. Our emotions are conditioned by our beliefs. We react more to our beliefs than to facts or anything else. Therefore, we must adopt an appropriate belief system.

Where do we find the beliefs we want? It is not sufficient trying to believe that we will be happy ever after. Our proposed new beliefs must be believable to be acceptable to both, our conscious and our subconscious mind. It must be something that gives meaning to our life that makes sense of it all. Meaning is the opposite to the inner emptiness that many of us try to fill with pleasure seeking and power games, causing so much emotional trouble in the end and depression if we fail. If there is also a strong influence of physical factors on our emotional life, such as nutrition and tense muscle structures. Therefore, in order to heal our emotions properly, we must work on all four levels of our being, the biological, the emotional, the mental and the spiritual level.

OUR LOST FEELINGS

With our feelings and emotions we experience ourselves in this world. They are the driving force, the power, and the motor of our life. Without feelings and emotions we would be like robots, a computer operating a body with the help of electric signals.

It is the feelings and emotions, our likes and dislikes, that give our life meaning, that make us happy or unhappy, fulfilled or dissatisfied and that to a large degree decide our course of action and even our health. Diseases not only make us feel unwell, but negative and suppressed emotions and feelings are a major contributing factor in causing our diseases.

When we are young, we are full of feelings and emotions, we experience them strongly, we are sensitive and react immediately and directly to our social and physical environment. When we are old, our emotions are only a distant memory and even our feelings are greatly diminished, pain is often the only feeling left.

More and more we do act like a robot with compulsive habits and live only in our head, using our body just to carry our brain around. What happened in between, why and how did we lose our feelings and emotions, our sensitivity?

Have an answer for this?????